Brahmacharya: Why we are not really experiencing or practicing yoga Part 2
Lets start with this all over again. Why is it that people are so drawn to calling themselves yogis? What does it mean? Today it is attachment and identification. Look at me, look at me! I am a yogi! Look how spiritual I am! Look how inspirational to others i am!!! I am a good person and I can teach you to be spiritual too!!!!!
What does it take to become a yoga teacher? $3500 minimum and 8 weekend classes to equal 200 hours. No prior education nor experience nor does it take any moral abiding or ethical standing. Hmmmm? Then after that you are a teacher? How can one teach something they have never experienced?
The first limb of yoga in The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali have the Yama and Niyama. One of the yama is Brahmacharya which IS celibacy. How can anyone teach anything more than the first step when they have not lived a life of celibacy to know what it is and what it does? This only leaves what has happened as the results…. The West has tried to find every way it can to bend and twist Brahmacharya into anything it can to get out of but absolute celibacy, it cannot. If you have one iota of understanding of the entire Indian culture, you completely understand Brahmacharya as being a celibate path. Only a celibate path in Yoga. That does actually mean a yogi as a celibate.
This is seen by the understanding of Brahma. Brahma is the unmanifest…. god, the ultimate reality. Charya is to follow. The spiritual path is one back to god, not into the world. The closer one gets the higher one gets in their development as a human being. This is also why ahimsa (nonviolence) is in the first yama of the yamas in Patanjali’s sutras of the path of yoga. If you were to look into any religion, you would find that god is in the upward direction, not down. This is pretty obvious. Downward is tamasic, upward is sattvic.
(Is it nonviolence to just watch your violence and call it ahimsa?)
It is as much inconceivable to be a yogi in America as much as it is inconceivable to the Western mind to be celibate. Think for a second, about a dharmic culture that is not focused on sex constantly (like we are here in the states) and sex was not something performed until after marriage for the most part. Today, outside of the big cities, it is still inconceivable to even go on what we Westerners call a date. Think about the culture that yoga comes from and how unknown these cultural contexts are. It is shunned, even today although the Western culture and it “freedom to be an individual is creeping into every crevice, to have sex prior to marriage and looked down upon. I have heard soooooooo many excuses for brahmacharya not being celibacy, it is frightening. None of them actually coming from anything but someones lack of being able to be a celibate. Also I may say that these excuses also come from people that have never walked the path of celibacy, so where are they talking from?
In India, A brahmin is not a yogi and this is just some of the verses you find about them…..
10. The student (brahmacari) should completely renounce the following eight things — his lust, anger, greed, desire for sweets, sense of decorating the body, excessive curiosity, excessive sleep, and excessive endeavour for bodily maintenance.
12. He alone is a true brahmana (dvija or “twice-born”) who is satisfied with one meal a day, who has the six samskaras (or acts of purification such as garbhadhana, etc.) performed for him, and who cohabits with his wife only once in a month on an auspicious day after her menses.
17. The brahmana who steals the property of the Deities and the spiritual preceptor, who cohabits with another’s wife, and who maintains himself by eating anything and everything is called a chandala.
You can see that just by these two verses of Chanakya Niti, most everyone in the yoga world are not yogis since a yogis austerity is much higher than a Brahmins and to think of having sex only once a month much less timing it around anything but animalistic desire………
I think that this story below pretty much says it all when talking of the spiritual movement today and their ability to embrace what is. Many ancient yoga texts it speaks of Brahmacharya. More than in just yoga Brahmacharya is spoken of in many many texts of ancient paths.
In Ayurveda, atimithuna (excessive sex), which is alot less sexual intercourse (or masterbation) than the average American has (once every 15 days in certain seasons), creates disease. Due to excessive loss of semen, enlargement of testes and sometimes pain in the testes develops. Even when the excess is undoubtedly a disease that has caused depletion it is not recognized as this in the Western world. The evil after-effects that follow the loss of seminal energy are dangerous. Persons are physically, mentally and morally debilitated. The body and the mind refuse to work energetically, because the semen is not used up in the body to form Ojas that give vibrant health, strong will power and sound mind. Later on, such people develop impotency for the testes cannot produce semen with normal sperm count. Life for him loses all zest, zeal and charm. He becomes a victim of a number of diseases like anaemia, loss of memory, gloominess, palpitation of heart, pain in the back, loins, head and joints, weak kidneys, fickle mindedness, enlargement of testes, pain in the testes, debility, nervous breakdown, restlessness of mind, lack of thinking power, etc. He goes through hellish suffering. (this applies to females as much as males)
“I have abandoned the lust that wastes my seminal energy. I throw away those sexual desires forever as they destroy my strength, intelligence and health. I will never become a victim of sexual desires” But what happens to one who does not lead the life of celibacy.
“The lust is the cause of diseases, dire diseases. It is the cause of death, fatal death. It makes one walk with tottering steps. It causes mental debility and retardation. It destroys health, vitality and physical well being. It burns all the Dhatus (viz. chyle, blood, flesh, fat, bone, marrow and semen). It pollutes the purity of mind.”
But this is not even conceivable in the Western world.
Not only does The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali list it as one of the main ten aspects of being a yogi but also the Hatha Yoga Pradipika says…
59. By regular and close attention to Nâda (anâhata nâda) in Hatha Yoga, a Brahmachari, sparing in diet, unattached to objects of enjoyment, and devoted to Yoga, gains success, no doubt, within a year.
62. Food heated again, dry, having too much salt, sour, minor grains, and vegetables that cause burning sensation, should not be eaten. Fire, women, traveling, etc., should be avoided.
63. As said by Goraksa, one should keep aloof from the society of the evil-minded, fire, women, traveling, early morning bath, fasting, and all kinds of bodily exertion. (because this is what it comes down to is a loss of ojas and excessive exertion)
A Yogi far exceeds a thousand householders, a hundred vanapraasthas, and a thousand Brahmacharis.
114. The Yogi observing Brahmacharya (celibacy) and always eating sparingly, gets success within 40 days by practice with Kundali. (why 40 days? Answer is in the stars, this is also a hint that knowledge of the stars (jyotish) is known to yogis as well)
According to yogic science, semen exists in a subtle form throughout the body. It is withdrawn and elaborated into a gross form in sexual organ under the influence of an electromagnetic (Bioelectric) energy. It is called Kamasakti. Sublimation of sexual energy does not mean flowing the semen from seminal vesicles to the brain. There is no any duct of vessel through which semen could flow upwards towards the brain. Sublimation means diversion of bioelectric energy from sexual organs to central nervous system. This energy is converted into Ojas. Semen remains in the same place. When a man looks at a woman clad in fashionable dress, or he thinks of the body of a woman, this Kamasakti flows downwards and activates the genital organs. It is this energy that is used up in the process of ejaculation of semen. So this is the actual loss of vital energy. The Yogi penetrates into the subtle hidden nature of things through inner vision. If you may not become a Yogi who has achieved complete sublimation through Self-realisation, it would be helpful to learn and practice the techniques of conservation of seminal energy.
I think that the quotes above make it very clear.
It is obvious to see that as much as someone tries to make brahmacharya in yoga anything less than strict celibacy, is just how much of a problem they have with their sex or lust, attachment as well as all of their desires in the first place. Quite obvious. In every case that I have experienced of this, the person has never been celibate to speak from a place to know of what celibacy is, strange enough. Why all the hype on being a yogi if you cannot in reality be a yogi (to the point of getting a whole mass of people together to change what a yogi is)? I think the answer is in this story.
One of the disciples of Socrates (a great Greek philosopher) asked his teacher, “My Venerable Master, kindly instruct me how many times a house-holder can have copulation with his legal wife?”
Socrates replied, “Only once in his life time”
The disciple said,” Oh my Lord! This is absolutely impossible for worldly men. Pray, kindly prescribe an easy path.”
Then Socrates said, “A house-holder can have copulation once in a year.”
The disciple replied, “O Venerable Sir, this is also a hard job for them. You must prescribe an easier course.”
Socrates then replied, “Well, my dear disciple, once in a month. This is suitable. This is quite easy. I think you are satisfied now.”
The disciple said, “This also is impossible, my revere master. Householders are very fickle-minded. Please prescribe an easier course.”
Socrates said, “Twice in a month. But this will cause an early death.”
The disciple said, “This also is impossible, for they cannot remain for a single day without sexual intercourse.” [isn’t that the truth, just weak minds that is all]
Then Socrates said, “Well said, my dear child. Do one thing now. Dig a grave and purchase a coffin and winding sheet for the corpse before hand. Now you can spoil yourself any number of times you like. This is my final advice to you.”
This last advice pierced the heart of the disciple. He thought over the matter seriously and understood the importance and glory of Brahmacharya. He took a vow of strict unbroken celibacy for life. He took to spiritual Sadhana in right earnest and attained Self-realisation. But one, who wastes his semen for sexual pleasure, finally attains despair, weakness and death. Priceless human life is wasted in sexual indulgence but sexual desires are never satiated. You might have heard the story of King Yayaati.
There once lived a King named Yayaati who lived for a full one thousand years of enjoying all the pleasures a King of his position could command. Guru Shukracharya’s daughter Devayani was his wife. Guru Shukracharya cursed him to become old because he had intimate relations with a maid servant named Sarmistha. He asked for forgiveness. Shukracharya took pity on him and favorably modified his curse, so that Yayaati could regain his youth if anyone of his sons is ready to get his old age in return. He had still a great desire to enjoy all royal pleasures for some more years, he asked each of his sons (Yadu, Turvasu, Druhyu and Anu), one by one, to take upon himself this old age and give him his youth in return, assuring that after one thousand years he would return the youth and take back his decrepitude. Not one of them was willing to accept the offer except his youngest son named Puru. Puru gave his youth to his father and got in return old age and its consequent weakness. Yayaati, being exceedingly delighted with his new youth, began to indulge again in sensual pleasures. He enjoyed himself to the full limit of his powers and as much as he desired without violating the precepts of religion. He was very happy, but only one thought troubled him. And that was the thought that the one thousand years would come to an end. He was not satisfied even when the fixed time came to an end.
He came to his son Puru and addressed him thus: “O son, I have enjoyed with your youth to the full limit of my powers and all pleasures, according to their seasons. But desires never die. They are never satiated by indulgence. By indulgence they flame up like the sacrificial fire with ghee poured into it.”
न जातु कामः कामानामुपभोगेन शाlयित |
हLवषा कृ mणव9मSव भूय एवािभवध,ते ||
He said, “If one becomes the sole lord of all the earth, with its paddy, oats, gems, beasts and women, still it will not be considered by him enough. Therefore, the thirst for enjoyment should be abandoned. The thirst for enjoyment which is difficult to cast off by the wicked, which does not fail even with failing life, is truly a fatal disease in man. To get rid of this thirst is real happiness. Yayaati’s experience is very useful to mankind. He continued, “My mind was attached to the pleasures of life for full one thousand years. My thirst for them, however, without being abated, is daily being increased.”
पूण? वष,सहoं मेLवषयासpचेतसः |
तथाqयनुPदनं तृmणा ममैतेmविभजायते ||
Yayaati said, “My son, therefore, I shall get rid of it. I shall fix my mind on Brahman (supreme consciousness), and becoming peaceful and having no attachment, I shall pass the rest of my days in the forest with the innocent deer.” So saying he installed Puru on the throne after giving him back his youth and retired into the forest to lead the life of an ascetic. Puru’s dynasty was named Paurav in which Janmejaya, the son of King Parikshit was born.
To be a yogi is actually a very simple life.
There is no juicing or detox dieting – those are Western concepts
There are no fashions – life is not about attachments and possessions
There isn’t even Facebook, Twitter, and the others.
How can it be called modern yoga when there was never anyone that has experienced the yogic path to be able to change it with any authority to what is now, Modern Yoga?
I can change the word Brahmacharya to Samadhi in all of this post and it remains the same. Since samadhi is the main focus or goal of yoga and it is not being experienced?
“And those students who find that world of God through chastity, there is that heavenly country; theirs in whatever world they are, is freedom.”
– Chhandogya Upanisad
“These sexual propensities, though they are at first like ripple, acquire the proportions of a sea on account of a bad company. Whenever the mental image of a woman crops up in your mind with evil thoughts, repeat mentally “Om Durgaa Devyai Namah ” and do mental prostrations.”
– Swami Vivekananda
“Know that in this world there is nothing that cannot be attained by one who remains from birth to death a perfect celibate ….. In one person, knowledge of the four Vedas, and in another, perfect celibacy- of these, the latter is superior to the former who is wanting in celibacy.”
– The Mahabharata
“A wise man should avoid married life as if it were a burning pit of live coals. From the contact comes sensation, from sensation thirst, from thirst clinging, by ceasing from that, the soul is delivered from all sinful existence.”
– Lord Buddha
While I quote Buddha, I might as well throw in here that The Mahāsāṃghika Vinaya records that the first precept the Buddha ever established for the bhikṣu-s was the precept against sex:
《摩訶僧祇律大比丘戒本》卷1：「佛在毘舍離城成佛五年冬分第五半月十二日。食後東向坐一人半影。為長老耶奢伽蘭陀子制此戒。已制當隨順行。是名隨順法。」(CBETA, T22, no. 1426, p. 549, c1-3)
The Buddha was in Vaiśālī. It was five years following his enlightenment. It was the fifth half-moon of winter on the twelfth day when after eating he sat eastward with a man’s half-shadow. He then established this precept for the elder Yaśa Kalandaka Putra. Having been established, one should be in accord and carry it out. This is called the Dharma of being in accord.
“A man develops a subtle power as a result of the strict observance of celibacy for twelve years. Then he can understand and grasp very subtle things which otherwise elude his intellect. Through that understanding the aspirant can have direct vision of God. That pure understanding alone enables him to realize Truth.”
– Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa
“As for myself, I look upon all women as my Mother. This is a very pure attitude of mind. There is no risk or danger in it. To look upon a woman as one’s sister is also not bad. But the other attitudes are very difficult and dangerous. It is almost impossible to keep to the purity of the ideal.”
– Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that everyone should be celibate, not at all. For most it is not healthy for them as they are in no place in their growth and mainly the mentality to do so and to do so would be hazardous to their mental health. Being what one says they are and knowing about what one is identifying themselves as is just as important though to the mental health.
Eight Aspects of Brahmacarya
(Sridhara Svami, the Bhagavatam commentator, also quoted in Daksa smrti)
Discussion with evidences – Maha-Mantra Das
(1) smaranam – One should not think of the opposite sex. One should think of Krsna and His service as given by the spiritual master. Memorize favorite passages or verses from the sastras.
(SB 7.15.36 purport) “In our Krsna consciousness movement it is advised, therefore, that the sannyasis and brahmacaris keep strictly aloof from the association of women so that there will be no chance of their falling down again as victims of lusty desires.”
(2) kirtanam – One should not talk of sex life (prajalpa). One should talk of Krsna and discuss one’s realizations with one’s friends, other brahmacaris. (Practice gravity, chant japa nicely)
“Japa means tapa, tapasya. And that is drdha-vrata. Tapasa brahmacaryena. Tapasya begins with brahmacarya. There is no tapasya, there is no brahmacarya, there is no drdha-vrata,” (Room Conv. Jan 31, 1977)
“So this is the process. Tapasa brahmacaryena. Brahmacarya is very, very essential. And that is, when one becomes detestable to sex life, that is the beginning of spiritual life. That is the beginning of spiritual life.” (lecture CC Adi 1.11, April 4, 1975) (see determination)
tatranvaham krsna-kathah pragayatam anugrahenasrnavam manoharah tah
sraddhaya me ‘nupadam visrnvatah priyasravasy anga mamabhavad rucih
“O Vyasadeva, in that association and by the mercy of those great Vedantists, I could hear them describe the attractive activities of Lord Krsna and thus listening attentively, my taste for hearing of the Personality of Godhead increased at every step.”
Lord Sri Krsna, the Absolute Personality of Godhead, is attractive not only in His personal features, but also in His transcendental activities. It is so because the Absolute is absolute by His name, fame, form, pastimes, entourage, paraphernalia, etc. The Lord descends on this material world out of His causeless mercy and displays His various transcendental pastimes as a human being so that human beings attracted towards Him become able to go back to Godhead. Men are naturally apt to hear histories and narrations of various personalities performing mundane activities, without knowing that by such association one simply wastes valuable time and also becomes addicted to the three qualities of mundane nature. Instead of wasting time, one can get spiritual success by turning his attention to the transcendental pastimes of the Lord. By hearing the narration of the pastimes of the Lord, one contacts directly the Personality of Godhead, and, as explained before, by hearing about the Personality of Godhead, from within, all accumulated sins of the mundane creature are cleared. Thus being cleared of all sins, the hearer gradually becomes liberated from mundane association and becomes attracted to the features of the Lord. Narada Muni has just explained this by his personal experience. The whole idea is that simply by hearing about the Lord’s pastimes one can become one of the associates of the Lord. Narada Muni has eternal life, unlimited knowledge and unfathomed bliss, and he can travel all over the material and spiritual worlds without restriction. One can attain to the highest perfection of life simply by attentive hearing of the transcendental pastimes of the Lord from the right sources, as Sri Narada heard them from the pure devotees (bhakti-vedantas) in his previous life. This process of hearing in the association of the devotees is especially recommended in this age of quarrel (Kali).
(3) kelih – Don’t play or dally with the opposite sex, (even if it is your service to deal with them, try to minimize it) .
Rupa Goswami says in NOD ‘avyartha-kalatvam’. Pure devotees don’t waste their time, they always are cautious to make sure they are always engaged positively in K.C.
“If one is absent-minded, he cannot work nicely because mind is absent or not in order. Therefore our method of controlling the senses is to engage the senses in the service of the Lord.
The first engagement should be that mind should be always absorbed in thoughts of Krsna. Always engaged. These boys, they are always engaged. Just like in offering arcana to the Deities from early morning up to ten o’clock at night, and then they go to rest. Again rise early in the morning. So somebody is engaged in cleansing the temple, somebody is engaged in dressing the Deity, somebody is engaged in cooking for the Deity, somebody is engaged going in Tokyo city for distributing literature, somebody is performing kirtana here, somebody is reading our various books. In this way we have got twenty-five hours engagement instead of twenty-four hours. So mind cannot go outside Krsna. That is called Krsna conscious. We don’t allow the mind go out of Krsna’s service. And this is sannyasa.” (from lecture April 30 1972 Tokyo)
(4) preksanam – Don’t look lustfully at the opposite sex. Focus your eyes (or remember) on your favorite Deity form of the Lord.
sarat-padmotsavam vaktram vacas ca sravanamrtam
hrdayam ksura-dharabham strinam ko veda cestitam
A woman’s face is as attractive and beautiful as a blossoming lotus flower during autumn. Her words are very sweet, and they give pleasure to the ear, but if we study a woman’s heart, we can understand it to be extremely sharp, like the blade of a razor. In these circumstances, who could understand the dealings of a woman?
Woman is now depicted very well from the materialistic point of view by Kasyapa Muni. Women are generally known as the fair sex, and especially in youth, at the age of sixteen or seventeen, women are very attractive to men. Therefore a woman’s face is compared to a blooming lotus flower in autumn. Just as a lotus is extremely beautiful in autumn, a woman at the threshold of youthful beauty is extremely attractive. In Sanskrit a woman’s voice is called nari-svara because women generally sing and their singing is very attractive. At the present moment, cinema artists, especially female singers, are especially welcome. Some of them earn fabulous amounts of money simply by singing. Therefore, as taught by Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu, a woman’s singing is dangerous because it can make a sannyasi fall a victim to the woman. Sannyasa means giving up the company of women, but if a sannyasi hears the voice of a woman and sees her beautiful face, he certainly becomes attracted and is sure to fall down. There have been many examples. Even the great sage Visvamitra fell a victim to Menaka. Therefore a person desiring to advance in spiritual consciousness must be especially careful not to see a woman’s face or hear a woman’s voice. To see a woman’s face and appreciate its beauty or to hear a woman’s voice and appreciate her singing as very nice is a subtle falldown for a brahmacari or sannyasi. Thus the description of a woman’s features by Kasyapa Muni is very instructive. When a woman’s bodily features are attractive, when her face is beautiful and when her voice is sweet, she is naturally a trap for a man. The sastras advise that when such a woman comes to serve a man, she should be considered to be like a dark well covered by grass. In the fields there are many such wells, and a man who does not know about them drops through the grass and falls down. Thus there are many such instructions. Since the attraction of the material world is based on attraction for women, Kasyapa Muni thought, “Under the circumstances, who can understand the heart of a woman?” Canakya Pandita has also advised, visvaso naiva kartavyah strisu raja-kulesu ca: “There are two persons one should not trust-a politician and a woman.” These, of course, are authoritative sastric injunctions, and we should therefore be very careful in our dealings with women. Sometimes our Krsna consciousness movement is criticized for mingling men and women, but Krsna consciousness is meant for anyone. Whether one is a man or woman does not matter. Lord Krsna personally says, striyo vaisyas tatha sudras te ‘pi yanti param gatim: whether one is a woman, sudra or vaisya, not to speak of being a brahmana or ksatriya, everyone is fit to return home, back to Godhead, if he strictly follows the instructions of the spiritual master and sastra. We therefore request all the members of the Krsna consciousness movement – both men and women – not to be attracted by bodily features but only to be attracted by Krsna. Then everything will be all right. Otherwise there will be danger.
Here is a practical solution to the problem of agitation in the presence of so many women in Kali-yuga. Avoid unnecessary association, but be practical. Remember! The sense objects are not at fault. It’s how one understands the purpose of the various sense objects that creates one’s difficulties.
All creatures and all things must be offered for Krsna’s enjoyment. If one understands this always, then one can be pacified despite provocation. But disturbance or not, we must carry on our preaching duties. Get association and counseling. Endeavor for rectifying your strength. Then after regaining strength go out to preach again. This time more cautious than before you had the initial weakness.
“Who has introduced these things, that women cannot have chanting japa in the temple, they cannot perform the arati and so many things? If they become agitated, then let the brahmacaris go to the forest, I have never introduced these things. The brahmacaris cannot remain in the presence of women in the temple, then they may go to the forest, not remaining in New York City, because in New York there are so many women, so how they can avoid seeing? Best thing is to go to the forest for not seeing any women, if they become so easily agitated, but then no one will either see them and how our preaching work will go on? … It is not possible.” (SP letter to Ekayani 12/3/72)
(5) guhyabhasanam – Don’t talk intimately with the opposite sex in a secluded place. Make strong friendships with other brahmacaris (or offer your choice prayerful words to the Deity instead).
pranino mithuni-bhutan agrhastho ‘gratas tyajet
Those who are not married – sannyasis, vanaprasthas and brahmacaris – should never associate with women by glancing, touching, conversing, joking or sporting. Neither should they ever associate with any living entity engaged in sexual activities.
Praninah indicates all living entities, whether birds, bees or human beings. Among most species of life, sexual intercourse is preceded by diverse mating rituals. In human society, all types of entertainment (books, music, films) and all places of amusement (restaurants, shopping centers, resorts) are designed to stimulate the sexual urge and create an aura of “romance.” One who is not married – a sannyasi, brahmacari or vanaprastha – should rigidly avoid anything related to sex and of course should never see any living entity, whether bird, insect or human, engaging in the various phases of sexual intercourse. When a man jokes with a woman, an intimate, sexually-charged atmosphere is immediately created, and this should also be avoided for those aspiring to practice celibacy. Even a householder who becomes attached to such activities will also fall down into the darkness of ignorance.
(6) sankalpo – The determination to engage in sexual intercourse. Don’t contemplate to engage in sexual intercourse. Make sure you get proper counseling with a senior devotee(s) you have implicit trust in, if you have fallen to this bad state of mind (thinking, feeling, willing).
asankalpaj jayet kamam krodham kama-vivarjanat
arthanartheksaya lobham bhayam tattvavamarsanat
By making plans with determination, one should give up lusty desires for sense gratification. Similarly, by giving up envy one should conquer anger, by discussing the disadvantages of accumulating wealth one should give up greed, and by discussing the truth one should give up fear.
Srila Visvanatha Cakravarti Thakura has suggested how one can conquer lusty desires for sense gratification. One cannot give up thinking of women, for thinking in this way is natural; even while walking on the street, one will see so many women. However, if one is determined not to live with a woman, even while seeing a woman he will not become lusty. If one is determined not to have sex, he can automatically conquer lusty desires. The example given in this regard is that even if one is hungry, if on a particular day he is determined to observe fasting, he can naturally conquer the disturbances of hunger and thirst. If one is determined not to be envious of anyone, he can naturally conquer anger. Similarly, one can give up the desire to accumulate wealth simply by considering how difficult it is to protect the money in one’s possession. If one keeps a large amount of cash with him, he is always anxious about keeping it properly. Thus if one discusses the disadvantages of accumulating wealth, he can naturally give up business without difficulty.
If one doesn’t get help to stop this contemplation at an early stage, then eventually it goes from thinking to feeling. At this point, devoid of mind and sense control, the living entity loses all reasoning, and is unable to hear the Supreme Personality of Godhead in the form of sastras.
Such a person usually ends up (at best, through counseling) getting married, or (at worse) becomes a debauchee – falling into illicit life. Sometimes he tries to satisfy this craving through artificial means. (See SB 2.6.20 purport)
stambhayann atmanatmanam yavat sattvam yatha-srutam
na sasaka samadhatum mano madana-vepitam
“As far as possible he patiently tried to remember the instructions of the sastras not even to see a woman. With the help of this knowledge and his intellect, he tried to control his lusty desires, but because of the force of Cupid within his heart, he failed to control his mind”.
“Regarding your proposed marriage, if you think it is nice then you have all my blessings upon you both. If you do not think you can remain brahmacari, then it is better to remain in Krsna Consciousness as householder and not pretend to brahmacarya artificially. From your description the girl seems very qualified and sincere, so you continue to train her in our Krsna Conscious way of life and she will work together with you as your helpmeet in Krsna’s service.” (to Jananivas Sept. 29,’70)
Incidentally, Jananivasa Prabhu never got married. Instead since 1971 he has dedicated his life to the worship of Sri Sri Radha-Madhava in Mayapur, thus setting a wonderful example of dedication in Deity worship for all brahmacaris to follow.
(7) adhyavasayas – Don’t endeavor for sex life. Endeavor to improve or get better devotees association than you have now.
Even if austerity and brahmacarya are painful because we want to be unrestricted, as soon as we are regulated, what appeared to be painful is in practice not painful. There are two classes of men – those who are sober (dhira) and those who are extravagant (adhira). When one, in spite of provocation or in spite of the presence of a source of mental agitation, can remain steady in his position, he is called dhira. An example of a dhira is given by Kalidasa Pandita, a great Sanskrit poet who wrote a book called Kumara-sambhava, wherein he has given an example concerning Lord Siva. It appears that when the demigods were fighting the demons and were being defeated, they decided that they could be saved by a commander-in-chief born from the semina of Lord Siva. Lord Siva, however, was in meditation, and to acquire the needed semina was very difficult. They therefore sent Parvati, a young girl, who appeared before Lord Siva and worshiped his genitals. Although this young girl sat before Lord Siva and touched his genitals, Lord Siva was steady in meditation. Kalidasa says, “Here is an example of a dhira, for despite a young girl’s touching his genitals, he was undisturbed.” Similarly, someone sent a young prostitute to disturb Haridasa Thakura, and upon hearing her appeals for intercourse, Haridasa Thakura said, “Yes, your proposal is very nice. Please sit down and let me finish my chanting, and then we shall enjoy.” Morning came and the prostitute became impatient, but Haridasa Thakura replied, “I’m very sorry. I could not finish my chanting. Come tonight again.” The prostitute came for three nights, and on the third night she fell down at his feet, confessed her intentions, and pleaded with him, “I was induced to perform this act by a man who is your enemy. Kindly excuse me.” Haridasa Thakura then replied, “I know all about that, but I allowed you to come here for three days so that you could be converted and become a devotee. Now take these chanting beads, and go on chanting. I am leaving this place.” Here is another example of a dhira who has control of his body (deha), words (vac), and intelligence (buddhi). One’s body, words and intelligence should be controlled by one who is dhira and who actually knows the principles of religion.
(8) ca kriyanirvrttir – Don’t engage in sex life. Doing it has more trouble in store for you (health and otherwise) then you think. Control the senses, mind, activities by devotional service.
nirvrttir eva ca – One executes real brahmacarya when all these activities come to a halt. (Sridhara Svami 6.1.12).
“Of course, one who thinks that family life is too big a responsibility can forgo it and thus avoid a lot of trouble. Family responsibility is very great; therefore if a man feels he cannot accept the responsibility, he should remain a brahmacari, a celibate student. A person who practices the science of brahmacarya under the care of a spiritual master automatically becomes seventy-five percent free from material entanglement.” (SB 6.1.21-22)
“At the present moment, in the materialistic concept of life, everyone is servant of the senses. Everyone acts by the dictation of the senses; therefore they can be called, in other words, as godasa, servant of the senses. Instead of becoming servant of the senses, one has to become the master of the senses. That is called gosvami, master of the senses. So how to become master of the senses? Senses are very strong. How one can become master? The simple method is when one engages the senses in the service of the Supreme Lord, it is automatically controlled.”
etan maithunyam astangam pravadanti manisinah
vikarita brahmacaryam eda astanam laksanam iti
These eight kinds of enjoyments are eight kinds of breaks in the current of akhanda brahmacari life. We must avoid these eight interruptions with great care, hard work and diligent self-introspection (always analyzing at all times to observe true motivations).
Srila Prabhupada has also acknowledged that in Kali-yuga it may be difficult to strictly follow all the details in avoiding these eight breaks in brahmacari life, but Krsna conscious life following the regulative principles helps the devotee to prevail over the occasional attack by maya.
In a perverted adharmic culture that has no history of wisdom to come from, of course we steal from other cultures that do. What do we do with that superficial knowledge we get from them???? Change it to put on a new trendy fashion???
Whats in your yoga?