Smell the roses
I picture something familiar to the scene out of Stanley Kubrick’s “A Clockwork Orange” where charismatic delinquent Alex DeLarge is jailed and volunteers for an experimental aversion therapy, he is strapped down in the lounge chair with his eyes pulled open forced to sit and watch the films on the screen in front of him. Wish the world could see THIS.
We have been raised in a culture that is based on lack, fear and survival, self gratification and monetary gain. We know no stillness. All of the lack that we are just makes us consume and market for sales. We need to make money to pay rent or a mortgage and put food on the table right? .. and if you have all the money you could spend, you still work your butt off to try to make more money?????? To busy to sit still. Gotta be busy. Has anyone reading this post lived a life of living and being? We don’t know what it even means. Sure we read about it in the new age buddhist and other self help books that have been watered down for the fast paced western mind but nobody is doing it. Nobody really gets it. Gotta do, gotta create, gotta market, gotta manifest, gotta be positive, gotta gotta, gotta, gotta ……… STOP!
Our technology has been such a help with this as well. Now we have a phone that does pretty much anything because there is an app for it but you don’t even remember your partners phone number. You name it and it is out there. And we think this is GREAT! Now then we have more time to be busy. Then add on that we don’t really relate. Did we ever? Our kids are growing up in front of computers, in front of the TV, with headphones on, in front of anything that is entertaining them or else we rush them from here to there, from one appointment to another. Basketball practice to piano to the shrink. Can you see why we are so messed up? We have coffee bars up the wazzoo just to be around people and try to create social contact. We are dying for it. In a world that you can literally never leave your house because everything can be purchased and delivered to you via our wonderful technology. We are dying for relating, dying to know our Self… but how do you do that. It is not known to our culture. But I am sure someone will teach a weekend course on it.
I mean really sit back and take a look. We work for a living. Off to work in the AM rushing out the door, then back home in the evening to have some dinner catch up on our TV shows? The weekends we have off to sleep in. Then watch football or whatever and do chores around the house or go do the shopping that doesn’t get done during the week. Is this living? What is living? Really ponder that a second.
Then we save enough cash to go on a vacation where we get blitzed to enjoy some time away from our life? Getting drunk to have time off? What, do you have to get drunk to be living? How does that make sense? Kind of like celebrating holidays and such by poisoning ourselves with alchohol and unhealthy food and over eating? What?!?!?!!?
In all of this mad rush we then spend money on the newest coolest over inflated superfoods foods (that have actually been around forever and duh, everything is a superfood), diet fads, gym memberships, newest books or workshops on being mindful (get it mind full), so called yoga classes that are nothing more than an aerobics class, the newest life coaching or whatever Oprah has on her latest show and all these other things to try to be healthy which is nothing more than trying to get us back to nature and back to ourself and stillness?
Here we go, the answer is so clear and near as if it were a snake it would bite you.
Don’t work for a living. Create boundaries in your life and start dictating your life instead of letting a job do it for you. Do more stuff you don’t do like be in nature on walks or just sit by a tree.
Get rid of your TV. Your kids certainly are not getting any benefits out of it nor the x box. They can relate less than you. Maybe you could even spend time with them and be part of their lives, remember what it was like when you were a kid?
Turn your phone off except when it is really needed to be used. Also, take away your kids phone. They never needed it. You didn’t need it when you were that young.
Restrict your computer time. Only 1 hr beyond the workday time.
Spend a day a week doing nothing. You will be amazed at what this does. Betcha can’t.
Spend another day a week in silence. Yes, shut up. Shut up alot.
Then spend the next day listening.
Then spend the next day listening to someone else besides the voice in your head. There are other people in the world. If we saw that we might not be such a narcissistic culture.
The further you get away from that little traumatized spinning voice the more you are going to be able to see the rest of the world and also experience yourself. Sober and real and authentic. And you might just like yourself.
Don’t go excessive exercise stuff either. Just another way to try to get away from yourself. Go for a walk in nature instead. Better yet, just sit under a tree. See what happens if you do that for an hour.
Then when you are able to, sit. Close your eyes. Bring your attention to and stay focused on your tailbone and let your eyeballs move downward as if you were looking at your nose if your eyes were open. This will still the mind. Maybe it will take a while.
You don’t have to be productive. It doesn’t help. You don’t need to be creative, action oriented, energetic, manifesting, mindful, generating, intentional, or any of that B.S. that just keeps you mental and busy spinning.
Just be. Notice yourself being.
It is only here that we can find peace. Then your eyes will open. You will see everyone else, running around, crazy like. Never actually being. People will start to notice and say stuff. You will feel much better and you will be healthier. Guarenteed.
See, the other side to this is that sooner or later… you are gonna die. We come from the earth and return to the earth. It is not about making money or being the most popular or the sexiest, or the blah, blah, blah.
All that really matters is being. Then you can relate. Your life will change and you will live.
Can’t stop to smell the roses if you don’t even know what roses are.